Leading with Our Self-Image

Over the last few days I asked 4 people to send me a voice note sharing 5 statements of what they think about me.

Here is what they told me (and they all overlapped):

👉 “Tamar Lyons sees in others what they can’t see in themselves”

👉 “Tamar Lyons is ambitious, entrepreneurial, and successful”

👉 “Tamar Lyons is a woman beyond her years”

👉 “Tamar Lyons is energetic, spunky and I would want her on my team for anything I’m involved with.”

These statements are truth to them. I am what they think I am.

But I didn’t ask them to share this with me for a confidence boost.

Here’s why I asked them:

….I don’t regularly think these things about myself. I am not consntantly focused on these statements. While I have a positive self-image, the way I see myself is not to the level of how others see me. I fall into self doubt and imposter syndrome. I fall into comparison traps. So many of us do.

I asked them for these statements so I can up-level my self-image from the starting point of where my peers see me.

Our brains are not wired to look at all of our positive, incredible qualities, and most of us have a negativity bias that causes us to focus on what needs to change, rather than all of the great things we have accomplished.

But the great thing about our self-image is that we can change it whenever we want. We choose our beliefs.(Great book on this is Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz).

So I asked my peers to share their statements with me so I can alter my self-image to start from the lens of how they see me.

If you’re looking for personal growth, I invite you to ask your peers what qualities and statements come to mind when they think of YOU - and start integrating those statements into your life like you beleive them. The exponential growth starts there. ✨🤯